Healing the Pain Body

A few years ago I read Eckhart Tolle's book, The New Earth. I thought it was a great book for many reasons, but what I loved the most in his book is the idea of the "pain body". I have found this term to be a great way to frame that part of ourselves that can so easily sabotage what we are really striving for in life. Many times, whether I am teaching or counseling someone, I struggle with finding a language that everyone is comfortable with. Often times, a story or relating a situation to a myth or an archetype is helpful and other times I may refer to it as the shadow. But I have found the term "pain body" to be most useful and a comfortable term for many.

The term alone allows us to make a separation from who we truly are and that of our wounded selves. This separation or space between our pain bodies and our true selves is the first major step in creating change and healing. Once we can experience this space, we can then work with the pain body as opposed to being the pain body.

What exactly is the pain body and how do we recognize it? The pain body is the voice that creeps in to our consciousness that tells us all the reasons why we can't have what we want. Perhaps it tells us that we "aren't smart enough", "we are too old", or maybe "too young", or "we aren't good enough", or "not worth being loved". Whatever our internal message(s) are, it is a message that will stop us in our tracks and prevent us from experiencing what we really want in our life. Most often we have to quiet ourselves and slow down to even hear these messages because they have become such a part of ourselves. The messages from the pain body can be as familiar and unconsciously followed as breathing or blinking. However, once we slow down and bring our awareness to our own internal messages, we can begin to hear the pain body loud and clear.

Where does the pain body come from? Often our pain bodies develop very early on in our childhood, but not always. Whether it's from something that someone said, a situation or an event that brought about fear, the pain body is a belief that we take on about ourselves. It is a false belief based on what someone else may have said or done to us or sometimes the way we perceived things as a child. Whatever it is, the pain body and its internal messages keep us from truly experiencing love, beauty and our personal power. Its main goal is to keep us separate from who we truly are and what we truly desire in life.

So how do we heal the pain body? As I mentioned before, the first step in dissolving the pain body is recognizing our internal dialogue as our pain body, which in turn establishes a necessary space between us and our pain body. Being able to discover the truth of the situation and having a willingness to move through the fears that counteract the pain body is the next step. I have a friend that is great at tricking the pain body. I was talking with her about my own inner dialogue that comes up every time I'm about to do something that is really important to me. My pain body tells me that I can't help anyone. She suggested that in each moment it comes up, acknowledge it and respond by saying, "I'm not trying to help them. I'm just observing." When I did this, I could literally feel my pain body shrink away as if it just got called out on something and became powerless.

Another helpful tool is what I call flipping. Once when I was working on healing something very big in my life, the voice of my pain body had such a grip on me. I began using a technique that I refer to as "flipping". Every time I would hear the voice of my pain body, I would repeat over and over a mantra that instilled a message that was supportive and loving - the opposite of what my pain body was telling me. The words held a very different vibration to them than the words of my pain body and the pain body eventually began to dissolve.

The beauty of this work is, that once we discover the power that our pain bodies have had in our lives and we begin the process of healing, we awaken to a power so much greater than our pain body. We realize that we have been living our lives from a false center. No wonder our life isn't mirroring back to us what we want! Once we discover our authentic self free from our fears and our pain body, we can begin to create our lives from a place of truth and begin manifesting the life we desire.